I'm jealous of gay men
I'm jealous of gay men who never get harassed for not liking the opposite gender. I'm jealous that they have their own spaces and are for the most part respected. I'm jealous that they navigate the world with their male privilege and aren't constantly harassed. I'm jealous that they have their own spaces and sense of belonging. I'm jealous that they have bigger dating pool. I'm jealous that they can find someone to hook up with instantly without all the vetting and selecting we have to do. I'm jealous and tired. 6/22/2022 I would have never imagined that years later, there wouldn't be woman-only spaces for me to meet other womenRead Now I deeply crave the woman-centered spaces that I used to have access to before lesbianism was apparently deemed out of vogue. I replay scenes of these woman-centered spaces in my head: the parties, the potlucks, the clubs, all of it. I would have never imagined that years later, there wouldn't be woman-only spaces for me to meet other women for dating or for friendship. I would have never imagined that I would be sifting through dating apps filled with men claiming that they are women. I wouldn't have ever guessed that straight people would have the gall to make fun of women who identify as lesbian instead of queer. Straight people! Worst of all, I would have NEVER expected that people would think it was acceptable to redefine the word lesbian to suit their needs. A lesbian is an adult human female who loves and is attracted to other adult human females. There is literally no contesting that! But now, I am expected to adhere to the notion that people born men are lesbians and that people who don't identify as women or men are lesbians. It makes me incredulous. It makes me feel lonely. The sheer misogyny in this new way of thinking is infuriating. The amount of unchecked ego in this thought process is shocking. I just want to go on a damn date with another lesbian woman. To throw a dinner party with other lesbian women. Accessing these core needs around romance and community feels like an insurmountable challenge. I am so bored of being asked to validate insecure trans women. Any online space for women will be full of “Is it okay for me to be here if I’m trans?” or “Would you date me even though I’m trans?” attention seeking posts, when they know that we have no choice but to smile and say yes, or face a ban. They are so insecure and childish. These are grown adults, reposting the same posts multiple times a day, so that they can try and push lesbians into validating them and it’s so stupid.
6/16/2022 I can’t accept that it is my job to use forgo my boundaries and my own sexual orientation to help them through their strugglesRead Now I spent decades being afraid to call myself a lesbian, and just as I finally found the courage, I find myself in a world where I am shamed for it. I feel sympathy for people who struggle with their gender identity. My struggle was not the same, but there are similarities between struggling with your sexuality, so I have sympathy, but I can’t accept that it is my job to use forgo my boundaries and my own sexual orientation to help them through their struggles. I need the lost lesbian spaces. I came out and was wandering in a forest, unsure of what to do or who to turn to for advice but there was nothing. We are not allowed anything. I have so many questions that will remain unanswered because the answers are deemed offensive now. I feel so alone.
The LGBTQ+ community is a fallacy if you're a lesbian. I am involved in running a lesbian group far away from this community and would not consider myself to be part of a community which sees fit to oppress lesbians and coerce us into sex with men.
They have outlawed lesbianism. We are back to the 50s with corrective rape (Cotton Ceiling), being told you haven't tried the right dick in different words, we have become a trophy for male conquest and fetishists. If you dare state who you truly are in the Alphabet Soup groups, you get called a bigot, a transphobe, etc. They stole everything from us, our right to talk about ourselves online, our safe spaces, lesbian groups and meetings, shut down MichFest, simply talking about a woman's body and its problems brings on pile-ons on social media. The queer hunt us for threesomes. Get the L Out. We have no future with them or they will erase us. They have already set our rights to exist back 70 years!
i am a bisexual woman who has always wanted a relationship with another woman but can never seem to get there. i've had long-term crushes and "situationships" that go nowhere, dates that go nowhere, etc. it is difficult to even find dates with women because the dating apps are all full of transbians, heterosexual couples looking for a threesome, and straight women looking for friends. there are no female spaces in the LGBT community to get to know people, and most same-sex attracted women my age identify as men or non-binary anyway. there is a stereotype about bisexual women that most of them are heterosexual posers who only have serious relationships with men. there is obviously a grain of truth to it, but i believe this trend is also partially because bisexual women are having dicks shoved in their face at every turn even when actively trying to seek out relationships with other women. i feel so lonely and i hate it.
6/16/2022 I wish I was born twenty years earlier so that I could have been part of a generation of lesbians that could actually meet and live their livesRead Now I am considering going back in the closet because there is no hope of ever actually being able to live as a lesbian. I’m exhausted by the shaming and the corrective coercion. I wish I was born twenty years earlier so that I could have been part of a generation of lesbians that could actually meet and live their lives but I’m trapped in this hell of “genital preferences” and “inclusive lesbianism” and there’s no way out. I’d rather be alone than be forced into adopting their demands. There has to be a way to stop this. I don’t have the answers but all I do is hope that normality will prevail and someone will help us.
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